The role of care taking that Islam gives to men is not fulfilled unless the man is a successful leader of his family.
A Muslim husband does not exert his manhood through, roughness, cruelty, violence or harshness, – this is the manhood of ignorance (of jahiliya). Islamic manhood is something else altogether. Islamic ideals of manhood is a strong, and likable personality a noble attitude, tolerance and forgiveness for mistakes, patient, strong adherence within the limits of Allah (swt) and a determination to establish the limits of Allah (swt) in the household. And how?….Through the Prophetic way of gentleness! And this excellence in leadership and care taking entails that the husband guides his family, spouse and children to the truth.
They are generous without being extravagant, they understand their responsibilities in this life and the next and they know what is ideal in the Muslim home that they want to promote. You want that serenity in the household. You want ”waj’alna lil-muttaqina imama”.
By Dr Hashimi – The Ideal Muslim
And those who say, “Our Lord, grant us from among our wives and offspring comfort to our eyes and make us an example for the righteous.” [Surah Al-Furqan Ayah 74]