You are the best….

Asalamualaykum,

First we would like to start of by thanking Allah for guiding us to Islam and blessing us with Islam…there is no bigger blessing than the blessing of being a Muslim. Alhamdulillah.

Secondly, we are living in times where woman are waking up to their true nature and are demanding change in different aspect of the society as well as living. Alhamdulillah we are seeing many women give up careers so they can raise their children, and we have seen many women start a career to better themselves and their families. However, today’s post is of the women who gave it all for the sake of holding it together. May Allah bless ALL mothers. Ameen

 

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A woman, renewing her driver’s licence , was asked by the woman at Registry to state her occupation.

She hesitated, uncertain how to classify herself.

‘What I mean is, ‘ explained the woman at Registry, ‘do you have a job or are you just a …?’

‘Of course I have a job,’ snapped the woman. ‘I’m a Mum.’

‘We don’t list ‘Mum’ as an occupation, ‘housewife’ covers it,’ Said the recorder emphatically.

I forgot all about her story until one day I found myself
in the same situation.
The Clerk was obviously a career woman, poised,
efficient, and possessed of a high sounding title like,
‘Official Interrogator’ or ‘City Registrar.’

‘What is your occupation?’ she probed.

What made me say it? I do not know. The words simply popped out.
‘I’m a *Research Associate in the field of Child Development and Human Relations.’*

The clerk paused, ball-point pen frozen in midair and
looked up as though she had not heard right.

I repeated the title slowly emphasizing the most significant words.
Then I stared with wonder as my pronouncement was written, in bold, black ink on the official questionnaire.

‘Might I ask,’ said the clerk with new interest, ‘just what you do in your field?’

Coolly, without any trace of fluster in my voice, I heard myself reply,
*’I have a continuing program of research*, (what mother doesn’t) *In the laboratory and in the field,*
(normally I would have said indoors and out).
*I’m working for my Masters*, (first the Lord and then the whole family)
*and already have four credits* (all daughters).
*Of course, the job is one of the most demanding in the humanities,*
(any mother care to disagree?)
*and I often work 14 hours a day,* (24 is more like it).
*But the job is more challenging than most run-of-the-mill careers and the rewards are more of a satisfaction rather than just money.’*

There was an increasing note of respect in the clerk’s voice as she completed the form, stood up, and personally ushered me to the door.

As I drove into our driveway, buoyed up by my glamorous new career, *I was greeted by my lab assistants* — ages 13, 7, and 3.
Upstairs I could hear our *new experimental model,*
(a 6 month old baby) *in the child development program*, testing out a new vocal pattern (crying).

I felt I had scored a beat on bureaucracy! And I had gone on the official records as someone more distinguished and indispensable to mankind than ‘just another Mum.’

*Motherhood!!!*
What a glorious career! Especially when there’s a title on the door.

Does this make grandmothers
*’Senior Research associates in the field of Child Development and Human Relations’*
And great grandmothers
*’Executive Senior Research Associates?’*
I think so!!!

I also think it makes Aunts ‘
*Associate Research Assistants.’*

Beautiful huh?! Now from now on use these titles with confidence, no one ever asks you to prove it so use them accordingly. Smile for you have the best job in the world.

Life hey?!

Asalamu’Alaykum

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You know we live life thinking good of ourselves majority of the time. For example, someone might say something to you but due to pride you’ll make a harsh comment back not caring about the reality of the comment. Or if you really were the type that couldn’t think beyond pride you would actually highlight that you are none of the things that was mentioned. Sometime we live in a bubble thinking that we are magnificent, we force ourselves to brush our habits or bad traits under the carpet. We are too stubborn to accept the truth so that we can make changes. We think ourselves too high! Khayr inshallah..let’s use Muharram to make new plans…it’s a new year so let’s take advantage and plan changes. Remember when we pass away we leave literally everything behind…so recall your deeds so that you can expand them. Make use of the special months and fast where you can, give to charity according to what you can afford, help others and lastly smile! Smiling it’s also a charity.

Don’t hurt me…

Asalamu’Alaykum

 

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“When a glass is broken, the sound of breaking disappears immediately whereas the glass pieces are scattered over the ground hurting whoever walks over it”.

Similarly, “when you say something that hurts people’s emotions and feelings, the voice disappears immediately but the heart remains in pain for long.”

Therefore, don’t say anything except good and remember always the nine advises and prohibitions that Allah Almighty gave us in Suratul Hujurat (The Sura of Islamic manners) before you say something to anyone:
1.-فتبينوا:
“Fa Tabayyanu”: Investigate: when you receive an information, lest you harm people out of ignorance.

2.-فأصلحوا:
“Fa Aslihu”: Make settlement: between your brothers as believers are brothers.

3.-وأقسطوا:
“Wa Aqsitu”: Act justly: whenever there is a dispute try for settlement and act justly among both parties as Allah loves those who act justly.

4.-لا يسخر:
“La Yaskhar”: Don’t ridicule people, perhaps they may be better than you to Allah.

5.-ولا تلمزوا:
“Wa La Talmizu”: Don’t insult one another.

6.-ولا تنابزوا:
“Wa La Tanabazu”: Don’t call each other with offensive nicknames.

7.-اجتنبو كثيرا من الظن:
“Ijtanibu Kathiiran min Aldhan”: Avoid negative assumptions, indeed some of the assumptions are sins.

8.-ولا تجسسوا:
“Wa La Tajassasu”: Don’t spy on each other.

9.-ولا يغتب بعضكم بعضا:
“Wa La Yaghtab”: Don’t backbite each other. Its a major sin equivalent to eating your dead brother’s flesh.

Lastly Allah said in the Qur’an “Remind, for the reminder benefits believers”.

*May Allah continue to Bless and Guide us in all our affairs*.

Which one are you?!

Asalamu’Alaykum

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There are 5 types of children listed below, where do you fall?

1. Does not do what his parents order him (this type is ‘aaq – i.e. undutiful/disobedient [which is one of the seven majors sins])

2. Does what his parents tell but is displeased with it (this type does not gain any reward)

3. Does what he is told but follows it up by raising his voice, or mentioning those favors [e.g. I have done so much for you, I am always doing ‘xyz’ for you..] (this type earns a sin)

4. Does what he is told, willingly and happily (this type is rewarded), and they are few.

5. Does what his parents want before he is even told (this is the type which is al-baar al-muwafaq i.e. dutiful and kind to his parents and is given the ability to be successful in all his affairs), and they are rare.

As for the last two types, don’t ask about the barakah [blessings Allah puts in person’s time, wealth, health, efforts etc. whereby it increases, multiplies or a lot of good comes from something little] they will have in their life, and the vast provision (rizq i.e. wealth, knowledge, health etc. Allah gives them); and how much their hearts will be at rest; and the ease they will find in all their affairs [due to being dutiful to their parents].

The difficult question for every person is – what type of child are you?

Don’t think that by simply kissing the forehead or hands, or even the feet of your parents, that you have attained their ultimate pleasure..m Ask yourself – what is al-Birr (being dutiful and kind towards one’s parents)?

… Al-birr is to recognize what is in the heart of your parents and act upon it without waiting for an instruction.

Al-birr is knowing what makes them happy, then racing towards doing it; and understanding what hurts them, then striving that they don’t ever see it from you!

Al-birr could be in something that you feel your parents desire, and you bring it to them, even a cup of tea..

Al-birr is that you ensure the comfort of your parents, even at the cost of your own happiness; so if you staying out late will cause them worry and stress, then you sleeping early is part of your birr (kindness) towards them.

Al-birr is that you miss a party that you are invited to when you feel, even for a second, that your staying out late will cause then worry and stress.

Al-birr is to plan a surprise Umrah or Hajj trip for your parents and arranging for them a nice hotel which they deserve!

Al-birr is to cheer up your parents – at an age where (for them) there does not remain a lot which brings them joy and happiness…

Al-birr is to spend abundantly
on your parents from your wealth even if they posses millions, without thinking twice about how much they own or whether they need it; for everything you have is only because of their hard work, and sleepless nights which they spent looking after you..

Al-birr is to look for their comfort, and not let them exert effort to make you comfortable, for it is enough how much strived for your sake already…

There are many ways for al-birr which lead to al-Janah (Paradise), so don’t restrict it to a single kiss on the forehead which may be followed up by many shortcomings…

و قَضَى رَبُّكَ أَلاَّ تَعْبُدُواْ إِلاَّ إِيَّاهُ وَبِالْوَالِدَيْنِ إِحْسَانًا

{And your Lord has decreed that you not worship except Him, and to parents, good treatment.} (Quran 17:23)

You know why?

Asalamu’Alaykum

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You might be wondering what the big deal is all about with fasting tomorrow (Tuesday 11th October). Well here it is

Ibn Abbas RadhyAllahu ‘anh reports:

‘When the Prophet ﷺ arrived in Madinah, he observed the Jews fasting on the day of ‘Ashurah, so the Prophet ﷺ asked them,

“Why do you fast on this day?”

They replied, “This is a great day. It is on this day that Allah saved Musa and his followers while drowning Pharoah and his people, so Musa fasted this day out of gratitude to Allah. That is why we fast on this day.”

The Prophet ﷺ replied, “We have more right to Musa than you (i.e. we love Musa and follow what he came with [Islam] more than you do),” and thereupon the Prophet ﷺ fasted this day and commanded the people to do likewise.’

[Sahih al Bukhari]

A man asked the Prophet ﷺ about the virtues of fasting the day of ‘Ashurah.

He ﷺ said,
‘I hope that Allah will make it a cause to expiate the sins of the previous year.’

[Sahih Muslim]

It is advisable to also fast the day preceding or the day following ‘Ashurah. One should fast two days: 9th and 10th of Muharram or the 10th and 11th.

The Prophet ﷺ said:

‘If I live until next year, I will fast the 9th along with the 10th (of Muharram).’

[Sahih Muslim]

This was so that his fasting would differ from that of the Jews.

 

Gotta Catch ’em all..

Asalamu’Alaykum

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The next coming days there will be no excuses for people who want to gain maximum rewards in small space of time. What are we talking about? We are talking about 8 days in a row for fasting…what a great reward !!! _commencing next week Tuesday (11th of October)!!_

_Monday (9th of Muharram) _*day before Aashuraa*
_Tuesday (10th of Muharram) _ *day of Aashuraa*
_Wednesday (11th of Muharram) _ *day after Aashuraa*
_Thursday (12th of Muharram) _ *Sunnah days of fasting*
_Friday (13th of Muharram) _ *first day of white days*
_Saturday (14th of Muharram)_ *second day of white days*
_Sunday (15th of Muharram) _ *third day of white days*
_Monday (16th of Muharram) _ *Sunnah days of fasting*

If you are unable to fast you can still partake in this opportunity of gaining reward by spreading the word. *Perhaps one will fast because of your message.*

‎((… مَنْ دَلَّ عَلَى خَيْرٍ فَلَهُ مِثْلُ أَجْرِ فَاعِلِهِ ))

*”Whoever points to something good will have the same reward as the one who does it.”* (Reported by Muslim)

Opportunities awaits you…

Asalamu’Alaykum

alhamdulillah for Islam, every where you look is an opportunity presented to us to cleanse our bad deeds and renew ourselves.

We have just finished Dhul’Hujja and then celebrated Eid only to be presented with Muharram and all its special requirements. ❤️💜

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Makkah & Madinah announced the 1st day of Muharram was Monday 3rd October. May Allah ‎ ﷻ grant us all the ability to increase in good deeds, & make this year the year of Qur’an for us. Revive the Sunnah of Muharram – fasting on the day of ‘Ashurah, which will occur on Tuesday 11 October 2016 .

So what’s the big deal with Muharram?

Ibn ‘Abbas (Ra) reported that the Prophet ‎ﷺ came to Madinah & saw the Jews fasting on the day of ‘Ashura. He ‎ﷺ asked: “What is this?” They said: ” This is a blessed day. On this day Allah ‎ ﷻ saved the Children of Israel from firaun & his army & so Musa عليه السلام fasted on this day giving thanks to Allah.” The Prophet ‎ﷺ said: “We are closer to Musa than you are.” He fasted on that day & commanded Muslims to fast on this day. (Al-Bukhari) Ibn Abbas (ra) also narrated that the prophet ‎ﷺ said “fast on the day of Ashurah (10th Muharram) … Fast a day before it or a day after it” “Fasting the day of ‘Ashura’ (is of great merits), I hope that Allah will accept it as an expiation.