Clean, wipe, spill, scream….repeat

Asalamualaykum
The biggest test Muslimah mother face

A house that never stays clean and children who have a mind of their own. What can you do to stay calm?

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You have finally finished the dishes and the kitchen looks tidy, but the surprise waiting for you in the living room raises your blood pressure so much that you lose control over yourself.
The floor you wiped just moments ago is littered with toys, biscuit pieces and juice spilled all over.

Being a mother, the biggest challenge I face is being patient at so many such incidents in everyday life and I believe it’s the same with the majority of us.

Let me admit: I FAIL in most of the cases!

For us, patience is extremely important since Allah has mentioned it several times in the Qur’an and the rewards for it really quite tempting.

وَاصْبِرُوا ۚ إِنَّ اللَّـهَ مَعَ الصَّابِرِينَ
and be patient. Indeed, Allah is with the patient.
(Qur’an 8:46)

إِلَّا الَّذِينَ صَبَرُوا وَعَمِلُوا الصَّالِحَاتِ أُولَـٰئِكَ لَهُم مَّغْفِرَةٌ وَأَجْرٌ كَبِيرٌ
Except for those who are patient and do righteous deeds; those will have forgiveness and great reward.
(Qur’an 11:11)

Many more such verses enhance the importance of patience.

As Muslimah mothers, it is very clear to us that being patient is not just about controlling our anger in order to be a good mother, but firstly it is to obey Allah.
Here are some smart tactics to save yourself from regrets:

🎈Absorb the fact that your kids are an amanah from Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى). This will help you be extra cautious when you are dealing with them.

🎈Understand and keep reminding yourself that there are a whole lot of women doing whatever they can in order to conceive. Being a mother is a gift.

🎈If we are able to live with and take care of our children then we should be more grateful because there are so many mothers who are separated from their little sweethearts for various reasons.

🎈Patiently taking care of little children 24*7 is no easy task. But we can try and with Allah’s help nothing is impossible. Don’t stop making dua.

🎈أعوذ بالله من الشيطان الرجيم (I seek refuge with Allah from
the accursed Shaitaan) is the best dua to stop shaitaan from attacking you.

🎈Health issues or hormonal imbalances can result in physical and mental stress. Keeping a helper or ordering in from a restaurant will definitely give you time to relax.

🎈Managing more than two or three toddlers is real work. If you end up shouting or smacking, don’t hesitate to apologise. A sorry card or simply a tight hug can do wonders, but make sure you tell them you were hurt by their actions.

🎈Be what you want your child to be. They copy what they see.

🎈Most of us must have read the statement : “Excuse the mess, we are making memories”. Yes you are. Treasure the moments.

🎈But also remember: Less mess less stress. To avoid mess create a play area for kids so that the toys stop finding other places to hide.

🎈Children grow up so quickly and with each passing year they become more independent. The present phase of life is passing away so try to grab it in the most beautiful manner.

🎈Children are children. Let them be. Tidying up is essential but don’t get obsessed to the extent that you restrict your children from being themselves.

🎈When you find it difficult to stay patient remind yourself of single mothers or a mother taking care of a disabled child. Our test of patience is nothing compared to theirs.

So, the next time you see spilt water, cushions on the floor or the sofa being used as a trampoline, take a deep breath and say Alhamdullilah.

A final note:
وَالْمَلَائِكَةُ يَدْخُلُونَ عَلَيْهِم مِّن كُلِّ بَابٍ
سَلَامٌ عَلَيْكُم بِمَا صَبَرْتُمْ ۚ فَنِعْمَ عُقْبَى الدَّارِ
… And the angels will enter upon them from every gate, [saying],
“Peace be upon you for what you patiently endured. And excellent is the final home.”
(Qur’an 13:23-24)

What more do we want?

I pray that you and I be able to make an effort to be more patient. آمين

By Nourin Ibrahim
Abu Dhabi, UAE

Overcoming blue….

Asalamualaykum, we pray you are all well.

Life can sometimes put you in very compromising situations or even worse might test every bit of you possible! During these difficult times it’s hard not to crack….but having good thoughts of Allah and knowing that He can bring you out if it can lighten the burden. Remember you are not alone. Alhamdulillah

Allah says in Surah Najm Verse 43

وَأَنَّهُ هُوَ أَضْحَكَ وَأَبْكَىٰ

And that it is He who makes [one] laugh and weep

Therefore seek Him and always busy yourself with His remembrance.

 

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A beautiful reminder from a Sister

It’s easy for the believer to face highs and lows in terms of emaan, the road is never just a straight one, so from time to time you will undoubtedly waver and even at times fall.
Sometimes you might even hit an all time low, one which completely pushes you in the wrong direction due to the force of shaytaan. But the moment you feel this force, you need to muster enough strength to redirect yourself, and push yourself towards Allah.

Any form of emptiness or hollowness which you may be experiencing may be an indication towards the absence of Allah’s remembrance from your heart, and His mentioning from your tongue. Hence it’s imperative that you bring back His remembrance in to your life.

Imagine the abundant blessings which come with being remembered by Allah. Imagine the angels acknowledging you, specifically you.
Will this not be a natural cause of the descent of mercy from Allah? Will such mercy not fill the emptiness within the depth of your inner self?
Undoubtedly yes!

The mercy of Allah includes safety, blessings and forgiveness. All of these combined and bestowed upon you can only mean ease and relief. Relief from any hardship, ease from anything which deters you from Allah.
So give all that you can in the remembrance of Allah, take hold of solitude and comfort yourself with His remembrance and He will comfort you with His mercy and companionship.

May Allah enable us to find ultimate peace in Him and His book, Al Quran Al Kareem. آمين.

Duah can go along way…

Asalamualaykum we pray you are all well.

Subhanallah we surely are living in times of many trials. It’s hard not to become emotional and sad about what’s going on in the Muslim world. You look to every corner where there’s muslims and in one way or another there’s oppression, suffering or massacre. It’s hard not to want to crawl into an empty hole and shut your eyes and cover your ears….all because we feel helpless and we are overcome with such despair.

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Alhamdulillah we have so many charities that are working tirelessly to try and provide basic essentials to help the needy live a little bit better than what they are currently undergoing….but the biggest help we can give is DUAH too!

We have forgotten the power of duah that we are only reminded when a situation is dire. But no, it should be done regardless. Duah is the only weapon of a believer…we should make Duah for them day and night, whenever we can.

Duah and istighfar go hand in hand…ask Allah to forgive us for our sins and pardon us. Because our sins could be a barrier for those that are suffering. Cry to your lord and ask Him to save the Ummah and grant us all the ability to wake up and see everything clearly.

Make Duah for the people stuck in East Aleppo, in mainland Syria, Africa, Burma, Pakistan

I longed for these….

Asalamualaykum dear readers,

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This is a reminder to our selves first and foremost.

“I longed for marriage”
.. and I got married
But life with out children is deserting

Thus I longed to be blessed with children
… and I got children
But within no time my small apartment made me uncomfortable..

I therefore longed for bigger house with garden..
well, I got it, though with much efforts
Yes, I possessed a mansion, but my children have grown up by then

Hence, I longed for them got married…
I now have them married,
yet official responsibilities give me fatigue

Now I resorted to retirement, so to get some rest…
.. Now I retired, become single just as I was after graduation..
.. After graduation I notice, I approached life, but now, I bid life farewell..

Still I do have ambitions..
.. I therefore longed for Quranic memorization..
.. but my memory betrayed me..

.. I longed to frequent fasting…
… yet my health condition won’t allow me do it..

.. I longed for night devotion “Qiyamul layl”…
.. but my feet could no longer carry me well…

VERILY The Prophet SAW made it categorical that ” Make profit out of five things before five things over took you.
Your youthfulness before the old age
Your health before illness
Your affluence before austerity
Your free time before busy moment
Your life before your death

NB: If your daily routine is empty of the following activities, be quick and insert them NOW… or NEVER :-
*2 Raka’at of Dhuha
*Daily Quranic recitation routine
*Qiyamul layl
*Alms giving /supporting the needy
*Spreading good word/nasiha/salam
May Allah SWT continue to help us against the satanic whispers and evils of our own souls.Salam alaykum.