Powerful prayer…

ASalamu’alaykum,

Today we have a beautiful story that illustrates the power of Duah. Never belittle the power of Duah…

A poorly dressed lady with a look of defeat on her face, walked into a grocery store.
She approached the owner of the store in a most humble manner and asked if he would let her a few groceries.

She softly explained that her husband was very ill and unable to work, they had seven children and they needed food.

The grocer, scoffed at her and requested that she leave his store at once.

Visualizing the family needs, she said: ‘Please, sir! I will bring you the money just as soon as I can.’

Store keeper told her he could not give her credit, since she did not have a charge account at his store.
Standing beside the counter was a customer who overheard the conversation between the two. The customer walked forward and told the grocer that he would stand good for whatever she needed for her family. The grocer said in a very reluctant voice, ‘Do you have a grocery list?’

Lady replied, ‘Yes sir.’ ‘O.K’ he said, ‘put your grocery list on the scales and whatever your grocery list weighs, I will give you that amount in groceries.’

Lady hesitated a moment with a bowed head, then she reached into her purse and took out a piece of paper and scribbled something on it. She then laid the piece of paper on the scale carefully with her head still bowed.

The eyes of the grocer and the customer showed amazement when the scales went down and stayed down..

The grocer, staring at the scales, turned slowly to the customer and said begrudgingly, ‘I can’t believe it.’

The customer smiled and the grocer started putting the groceries on the other side of the scales. The scale did not balance so he continued to put more and more groceries on them until the scales would hold no more.

The grocer stood there in utter disgust. Finally, he grabbed the piece of paper from the scales and looked at it with greater amazement.

It was not a grocery list, it was a prayer, which said:

🙏’Dear Allah, you know my needs and I am leaving this in your hands.’🙏

The grocer gave her the groceries that he had gathered and stood in stunned silence.

Lady thanked him and left the store. The other customer handed a hundred-dollar bill to the grocer and said; ‘It was worth every penny of it. Only Allah Knows how much a prayer weighs.’

Thank Allah for what he has given us, without knowing, appreciate everything with a sincere heart

What have you prepared?

Asalamualaykum readers,

Ramadan is literally few days away…what have you planned?

You might be planning to Read & Understand Quran this Ramadan in shaa Allah and want to start with short explanation of some verses from each Juz ? Then this post will be very useful to you and even if you are busy, It will hardly take 5-10mins per link in shaa Allah.

Juz 1:

Juz 2: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gWZDVYom3RE

Juz 3: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wFsYnwI6zEA

Juz 4: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=h2kwFI7bKi0

Juz 5: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9C6QyjX53cg

Juz 6: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KVh-W6CjIOc

Juz 7: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tXsMMj7m9tQ

Juz 8: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6NFo35g7zo8

Juz 9: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2i80milYJAc

Juz 10: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RlKDxmw466Y

Juz 11: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Btsvfuu2eE4

Juz 12: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=K1uQ1l4LQFE

Juz 13: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eThSNtJe7SY

Juz 14: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Vvn2WCO_zPg

Juz 15: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3xOK85qRQ_o

Juz 16: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WAwI1MvBViE

Juz 17: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=x9nMCACgvqk

Juz 18: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=y5YpDilwN04

Juz 19: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=T_DMb8o32c8

Juz 20: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DzSDr5xiGIE

Juz 21: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0qAhT7MV0Fg

Juz 22: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bFUACCm25ok

Juz 23: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PKFc1o8Yvzk

Juz 24:https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=R6XHHcbcitI

Juz 25: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iLvV_1JT2Ik

Juz 26: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=v_zrDh9Ny8g

Juz 27: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kvUU1g4i2bk

Juz 28: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xJRf_4tojx4

Juz 29: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ugx4MZK3EGQ

Juz 30: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9JL09VjJQWE

Ease promised twice!….

Asalamu’alaykum dear readers,

 

There are times, days and some months and years that we all go thru in life experiencing great hardships, unease and discomfort. However, during those moments of great hardship and sadness we forget ourself whilst the problem engulfs every piece of us…but then something amazing happens to a believer. The amazing realization that Allah promises us many a thing..but the most of all He promised us during these testing times…EASE! Yes you read right…He, Allah Ta’Alla promised us ease not once but twice.

فَإِنَّ مَعَ الْعُسْرِ يُسْرًا (94:5

 

إِنَّ مَعَ الْعُسْرِ يُسْرًا (94:6

 

Thus with this promise we break from the shackles of worry, discomfort, sadness, loss, wound, disappointment and whatever else is eating away our mind, body and soul.

For verily we read these verses more often but we never reflect on the beauty hidden between these verses.

And so I said to my soul; my sufferings became easier because my Lord promised me ease, not once but twice! 🙏💕

 

May Allah grant us all ease, ameen

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

True Love is ..

Assalamu’alaykum, we pray you are well

True love isn’t appreciated once a year…but rather true love is continuous and long lasting. It is not based on desires on the fulfillment of it…but rather it encompasses everything. You accept your love with their flaws and all…

A beautiful story to illustrate true ❤️

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Zainab bint Muhammad and Abu El’Ass ibn Rabee’; Zainab was the daughter of the Prophet (PBUH) and her cousin Abu El’Ass, was Khadeeja’s (RA) nephew. He was one of the nobles of the Quraish, and the Prophet (SAW) loved him very much.

One day Abu El’Ass went to the Prophet (SAW) before he had received his mission of Prophethood and said: “I want to marry your eldest daughter”. So the Prophet replied: “I must ask her first”. He (SAW) went to Zainab and asked her: “Your cousin came to me and he wishes to marry you, do you accept him as your husband?” Her face turned red with bashfulness and she smiled.

So Zainab married Abu El’Ass, the beginning of a great love story.

They had two children; Ali and Omama.

Then Muhammad became a Prophet while Abu El’Ass was away from Makkah. Abu El’Ass returned to find his wife a Muslim. When he first came back, his wife said “I have great news for you”. He stood up and left her. Zainab was surprised and followed him as she said, “My father became a Prophet and I have become a Muslim”. He replied, “Why didn’t you tell me first?” Hence a big problem began between the two; a problem of religion and belief.

She told him, “I wasn’t going to disbelieve in my father and his message, he is not a liar, and he is “The Honest and Trustworthy”. I’m not the only believer; my mother and my sisters became Muslims, my cousin Ali ibn Abi Taleb became a Muslim, your cousin Othman ibn Affan became a Muslim, and your friend, Abu Bakr, became a Muslim”.

He replied, “Well, as for me, I don’t want people to say, ‘he let down his people and his forefathers to please his wife’. And I am not accusing your father of anything”. Then he said, “So will you excuse me and understand?” She replied, “Who will excuse and understand you if I don’t? I will stay beside you and help you until you reach the truth.” And she kept her word for 20 years.

Abu El’Ass remained an unbeliever, and then came the migration. Zainab went to her father and asked him for the permission to stay with her husband. The Prophet (SAW) replied, “Stay with your husband and children”.

So Zainab stayed in Makkah, until the battle of Badr occurred. Abu El’Ass was to fight in the army of Quraish against the Muslims. For Zainab, it meant that her husband will be fighting her father, a time Zainab had always feared. She kept crying out: “O Allah, I fear one day the sun may rise and my children become orphans or I lose my father”.

So the battle started, and ended in victory for the Muslims. Abu El’Ass was captured by the Muslims, and news of this reached Makkah. Zainab asked, “What did my father do?” They told her, “The Muslims won”. So she prayed to Allah, thanking Him. Then she asked: “What did my husband do?” They said: “He was captured”. She said, “I’ll send a payment to release him”. She didn’t own anything of much value, so she took off her mother’s necklace, and sent it with Abu El’Ass’s brother to the Prophet.

While the Prophet (SAW) was sitting, taking payments and releasing captives, he saw Khadeeja’s necklace. He held it up and asked: “Whose payment is this?” They said: “Abu El’Ass ibn Rabee”. He cried and said “This is Khadeeja’s necklace”. As soon as the Messenger of Allah (PBUH) saw that necklace, he had a feeling of extreme compassion and his heart palpitated for the great memory. The Companions who were present there gazed in amazement having being captivated by the magnificence of the situation.

After a long silence, the Messenger of Allah (SAW) stood up and said “People, this man is my in-law, should I release him? And do you accept the return of this necklace to my daughter?” They answered in unison “Yes, Messenger of Allah”.

The Prophet (SAW) gave the necklace to Abu El’Ass and said to him: “Tell Zainab not to give away Khadeeja’s necklace”. Then he (SAW) said, “Abu El’Ass, Can we speak privately?” He took him aside and said, “Allah has ordered me to separate between a Muslim and a disbeliever, so could you return my daughter to me?” Abu El’Ass reluctantly agreed.

Zainab stood on the gates of Makkah waiting for the arrival of Abu El’Ass. When he finally came he said, “I am going away”. She asked, “Where to?” He replied, “It is not me who is going, it is you. You are going to your father. We must separate because you are a Muslim”. She implored him, “Will you become a Muslim and come with me?” But he refused.

So Zainab took her son and daughter and traveled to Madinah, and for 6 years she refused to remarry, hoping that one day Abu El’Ass would come.

After 6 years, Abu El’Ass was traveling in a caravan from Makkah to Syria.

During the journey, he was intercepted by some of the Prophet’s companions. He escaped and asked for Zainab’s home. He knocked on her door shortly before the dawn prayer. She opened the door and asked him “Did you become a Muslim?” He whispered “No, I come as a fugitive”. She implored him once more “Can you become a Muslim?” Again his answer was a negative. “Do not worry.” She said, “Welcome my cousin, welcome, the father of Ali and Omama”.

After the Prophet (SAW) prayed the dawn prayer in congregation with the people, they heard a voice from the back of the mosque, “I have freed Abu El’Ass ibn Rabee”. Zainab had granted Abu El’Ass’ freedom. The Prophet (SAW)asked, “Have you heard what I heard?” They all said, “Yes, Messenger of Allah”. Zainab said, “He is my cousin and the father of my children and I have freed him”. The Prophet (SAW) stood up and said, “O people, I declare that this man was a very good son-in-law, he never broke his promise, and neither did he tell lies. So if you accept, I will return his money back and let him go. If you refuse it’s your decision and I will not blame you for it.” The companions agreed, “We will give him his money”. So the Prophet (SAW) said to Zainab, “We have freed the one you have freed, O Zainab.” Then he (SAW) went to her and told her “be generous to him, he is your cousin and the father of your children, but don’t let him get near you, he is prohibited for you.” She replied, “Sure, father, I’ll do as you say”.
She went in and told her husband, “O Abu El’Ass, didn’t you miss us at all? Won’t you become a Muslim and stay with us?” But he refused.

Abu El’Ass then took the money and returned to Makkah. Once he returned he stood up and announced, “O people, here is your money. Is there anything left?” They replied, “No, Abu El’Ass, there is nothing left, thanks a lot.” So Abu El’Ass said, “I testify that there is no god but Allah, and Muhammed is His Messenger.” Then he went back to Madinah and ran to the Prophet (SAW) as he said, “Dear Prophet, you freed me yesterday, and today I say that I testify there is no god but Allah and you are His Messenger.” He asked the Prophet, “Will you give me the permission to go back to Zainab?” The Prophet (SAW) smiled and said, “Come with me”; he took him to Zainab’s house and knocked on her door.

The Prophet (SAW) said, “O Zainab, your cousin came to me and asked if he can return to you”. Just like 20 years before, her face turned red with bashfulness and she smiled.

The sad thing was, a year after this incident, Zainab died. Abu El’Ass shed hot tears because of her death and drove those who were around him to tears. The Messenger of Allah (SAW) came with eyes full of tears and a heart full of sorrow. Zainab’s death reminded him of the death of his wife, Khadeejah. He told the women, who gathered around Zainab’s corpse, “Wash her three times and use camphor in the third wash.” He performed funeral prayers on her and followed her final resting place. Abu El’Ass returned to his children, Ali and Omama. Kissing them and wetting them with his tears, he remembered the face of his departed darling.

May Allah be pleased with Zainab, the Prophet’s daughter! May He reward her with Paradise for her patience, endurance and struggle!

Abu El’Ass would cry so profusely that the people saw the Prophet himself weeping and calming him down. Abu El’Ass would say, “By Allah, I can’t stand life anymore without Zainab”. He died one year after Zainab’s death

Clean, wipe, spill, scream….repeat

Asalamualaykum
The biggest test Muslimah mother face

A house that never stays clean and children who have a mind of their own. What can you do to stay calm?

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You have finally finished the dishes and the kitchen looks tidy, but the surprise waiting for you in the living room raises your blood pressure so much that you lose control over yourself.
The floor you wiped just moments ago is littered with toys, biscuit pieces and juice spilled all over.

Being a mother, the biggest challenge I face is being patient at so many such incidents in everyday life and I believe it’s the same with the majority of us.

Let me admit: I FAIL in most of the cases!

For us, patience is extremely important since Allah has mentioned it several times in the Qur’an and the rewards for it really quite tempting.

وَاصْبِرُوا ۚ إِنَّ اللَّـهَ مَعَ الصَّابِرِينَ
and be patient. Indeed, Allah is with the patient.
(Qur’an 8:46)

إِلَّا الَّذِينَ صَبَرُوا وَعَمِلُوا الصَّالِحَاتِ أُولَـٰئِكَ لَهُم مَّغْفِرَةٌ وَأَجْرٌ كَبِيرٌ
Except for those who are patient and do righteous deeds; those will have forgiveness and great reward.
(Qur’an 11:11)

Many more such verses enhance the importance of patience.

As Muslimah mothers, it is very clear to us that being patient is not just about controlling our anger in order to be a good mother, but firstly it is to obey Allah.
Here are some smart tactics to save yourself from regrets:

🎈Absorb the fact that your kids are an amanah from Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى). This will help you be extra cautious when you are dealing with them.

🎈Understand and keep reminding yourself that there are a whole lot of women doing whatever they can in order to conceive. Being a mother is a gift.

🎈If we are able to live with and take care of our children then we should be more grateful because there are so many mothers who are separated from their little sweethearts for various reasons.

🎈Patiently taking care of little children 24*7 is no easy task. But we can try and with Allah’s help nothing is impossible. Don’t stop making dua.

🎈أعوذ بالله من الشيطان الرجيم (I seek refuge with Allah from
the accursed Shaitaan) is the best dua to stop shaitaan from attacking you.

🎈Health issues or hormonal imbalances can result in physical and mental stress. Keeping a helper or ordering in from a restaurant will definitely give you time to relax.

🎈Managing more than two or three toddlers is real work. If you end up shouting or smacking, don’t hesitate to apologise. A sorry card or simply a tight hug can do wonders, but make sure you tell them you were hurt by their actions.

🎈Be what you want your child to be. They copy what they see.

🎈Most of us must have read the statement : “Excuse the mess, we are making memories”. Yes you are. Treasure the moments.

🎈But also remember: Less mess less stress. To avoid mess create a play area for kids so that the toys stop finding other places to hide.

🎈Children grow up so quickly and with each passing year they become more independent. The present phase of life is passing away so try to grab it in the most beautiful manner.

🎈Children are children. Let them be. Tidying up is essential but don’t get obsessed to the extent that you restrict your children from being themselves.

🎈When you find it difficult to stay patient remind yourself of single mothers or a mother taking care of a disabled child. Our test of patience is nothing compared to theirs.

So, the next time you see spilt water, cushions on the floor or the sofa being used as a trampoline, take a deep breath and say Alhamdullilah.

A final note:
وَالْمَلَائِكَةُ يَدْخُلُونَ عَلَيْهِم مِّن كُلِّ بَابٍ
سَلَامٌ عَلَيْكُم بِمَا صَبَرْتُمْ ۚ فَنِعْمَ عُقْبَى الدَّارِ
… And the angels will enter upon them from every gate, [saying],
“Peace be upon you for what you patiently endured. And excellent is the final home.”
(Qur’an 13:23-24)

What more do we want?

I pray that you and I be able to make an effort to be more patient. آمين

By Nourin Ibrahim
Abu Dhabi, UAE

I longed for these….

Asalamualaykum dear readers,

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This is a reminder to our selves first and foremost.

“I longed for marriage”
.. and I got married
But life with out children is deserting

Thus I longed to be blessed with children
… and I got children
But within no time my small apartment made me uncomfortable..

I therefore longed for bigger house with garden..
well, I got it, though with much efforts
Yes, I possessed a mansion, but my children have grown up by then

Hence, I longed for them got married…
I now have them married,
yet official responsibilities give me fatigue

Now I resorted to retirement, so to get some rest…
.. Now I retired, become single just as I was after graduation..
.. After graduation I notice, I approached life, but now, I bid life farewell..

Still I do have ambitions..
.. I therefore longed for Quranic memorization..
.. but my memory betrayed me..

.. I longed to frequent fasting…
… yet my health condition won’t allow me do it..

.. I longed for night devotion “Qiyamul layl”…
.. but my feet could no longer carry me well…

VERILY The Prophet SAW made it categorical that ” Make profit out of five things before five things over took you.
Your youthfulness before the old age
Your health before illness
Your affluence before austerity
Your free time before busy moment
Your life before your death

NB: If your daily routine is empty of the following activities, be quick and insert them NOW… or NEVER :-
*2 Raka’at of Dhuha
*Daily Quranic recitation routine
*Qiyamul layl
*Alms giving /supporting the needy
*Spreading good word/nasiha/salam
May Allah SWT continue to help us against the satanic whispers and evils of our own souls.Salam alaykum.

How can I repay you?

Asalamualaykum

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Mothers are special people..they understand what her child never utters! The problems and difficult situations they have to endure is amazing.

Recently there was a mother who spoke about her day and she explained how on two occasions she placed food on the table with the intention of eating with her kids, only for her baby to start crying which meant she left the table. Once she had calmed the baby and had returned, the food was finished. She thought to herself “I really wanted to have some too!” This happened several times in her life but the two times she recalled this she thought to herself…mothers do so much but how can a child ever repay that back?

Subhanallah the daily challenges they have to overcome and the circumstances that they so happily accept even though it goes against what they use to believe and hold on to.

May Allah bless all mothers and grant them khayr in this world and the next. Ameen. ❤️🙏

1st the worse….2nd the best..

Asalamualaykum

We pray you are in the best of health and iman.

Nowadays it’s so hard to be patient especially when we are so fast paced with technology. We almost expect everything to be as fast as how we browse the net!

Sometimes we should sit and think about this and whether or not we are missing a great deal of practicing patience with all this rush rush rush.

A story to illustrate this. Think and ponder

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A certain gentleman walked into a hotel and after perusing through the menu ordered for some food.

After about 20 mins another group of gentlemen walked in and ordered for theirs. To his dismay, he noticed them get served first.

He watched as they began to eat and laugh heartily. He even overheard one of them brag about how he knew everyone at that hotel and how things moved fast for him here.

He felt he was being mocked. He contemplated leaving. But he had waited so long.

Unable to take it anymore, he called the waiter and spoke sadly of how unfair things were. The waiter calmly told him, “Yours is a special order Sir, being prepared by the chief chef himself.

Their orders were prepared hurriedly by interns because the top chefs are busy with yours. That’s why they came first.

Please have some juice as you wait”.

Unknown to him the owner of the hotel { who happened to be an old long lost friend of his } had seen him coming and wanted to surprise him and had made changes to his simple meal to make it an exotic meal. He calmed down and waited.

Shortly after his meal was served by 6 waiters and he was waited on hand and foot and being made very comfortable.

The gentlemen at the other table were shocked.

They couldn’t stop staring. Suddenly they were the ones murmuring, asking why they didn’t get that kind of service and meal.

So it is with life ! Some people seem to be ahead of you and eating now, laughing at you about how they know people and how they’re blessed with money and how they’re enjoying life because of it, and how famous they are, how many people follow them on social media, and even if they wrong anyone, people are so taken by them they will defend them. They gloat in that false facade and achievement and become boastful and arrogant, with all their priorities wrong.

You on the other hand have been waiting long wondering why its taking soo long to get your breakthrough, enduring mockery and humiliation.

Do not worry !

The owner of the world has seen you. And doesn’t want to give you simple meals like those laughing at you.

You’ve been waiting for long because yours is a special meal and takes time.

And only the chief chef makes those !

Take heart today.

Wait for your meal and relax. When it comes, the laughing party will be silenced for good.

Calm down.
Have patience and thank Allah for all that you have.

You are the best….

Asalamualaykum,

First we would like to start of by thanking Allah for guiding us to Islam and blessing us with Islam…there is no bigger blessing than the blessing of being a Muslim. Alhamdulillah.

Secondly, we are living in times where woman are waking up to their true nature and are demanding change in different aspect of the society as well as living. Alhamdulillah we are seeing many women give up careers so they can raise their children, and we have seen many women start a career to better themselves and their families. However, today’s post is of the women who gave it all for the sake of holding it together. May Allah bless ALL mothers. Ameen

 

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A woman, renewing her driver’s licence , was asked by the woman at Registry to state her occupation.

She hesitated, uncertain how to classify herself.

‘What I mean is, ‘ explained the woman at Registry, ‘do you have a job or are you just a …?’

‘Of course I have a job,’ snapped the woman. ‘I’m a Mum.’

‘We don’t list ‘Mum’ as an occupation, ‘housewife’ covers it,’ Said the recorder emphatically.

I forgot all about her story until one day I found myself
in the same situation.
The Clerk was obviously a career woman, poised,
efficient, and possessed of a high sounding title like,
‘Official Interrogator’ or ‘City Registrar.’

‘What is your occupation?’ she probed.

What made me say it? I do not know. The words simply popped out.
‘I’m a *Research Associate in the field of Child Development and Human Relations.’*

The clerk paused, ball-point pen frozen in midair and
looked up as though she had not heard right.

I repeated the title slowly emphasizing the most significant words.
Then I stared with wonder as my pronouncement was written, in bold, black ink on the official questionnaire.

‘Might I ask,’ said the clerk with new interest, ‘just what you do in your field?’

Coolly, without any trace of fluster in my voice, I heard myself reply,
*’I have a continuing program of research*, (what mother doesn’t) *In the laboratory and in the field,*
(normally I would have said indoors and out).
*I’m working for my Masters*, (first the Lord and then the whole family)
*and already have four credits* (all daughters).
*Of course, the job is one of the most demanding in the humanities,*
(any mother care to disagree?)
*and I often work 14 hours a day,* (24 is more like it).
*But the job is more challenging than most run-of-the-mill careers and the rewards are more of a satisfaction rather than just money.’*

There was an increasing note of respect in the clerk’s voice as she completed the form, stood up, and personally ushered me to the door.

As I drove into our driveway, buoyed up by my glamorous new career, *I was greeted by my lab assistants* — ages 13, 7, and 3.
Upstairs I could hear our *new experimental model,*
(a 6 month old baby) *in the child development program*, testing out a new vocal pattern (crying).

I felt I had scored a beat on bureaucracy! And I had gone on the official records as someone more distinguished and indispensable to mankind than ‘just another Mum.’

*Motherhood!!!*
What a glorious career! Especially when there’s a title on the door.

Does this make grandmothers
*’Senior Research associates in the field of Child Development and Human Relations’*
And great grandmothers
*’Executive Senior Research Associates?’*
I think so!!!

I also think it makes Aunts ‘
*Associate Research Assistants.’*

Beautiful huh?! Now from now on use these titles with confidence, no one ever asks you to prove it so use them accordingly. Smile for you have the best job in the world.

Which one are you?!

Asalamu’Alaykum

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There are 5 types of children listed below, where do you fall?

1. Does not do what his parents order him (this type is ‘aaq – i.e. undutiful/disobedient [which is one of the seven majors sins])

2. Does what his parents tell but is displeased with it (this type does not gain any reward)

3. Does what he is told but follows it up by raising his voice, or mentioning those favors [e.g. I have done so much for you, I am always doing ‘xyz’ for you..] (this type earns a sin)

4. Does what he is told, willingly and happily (this type is rewarded), and they are few.

5. Does what his parents want before he is even told (this is the type which is al-baar al-muwafaq i.e. dutiful and kind to his parents and is given the ability to be successful in all his affairs), and they are rare.

As for the last two types, don’t ask about the barakah [blessings Allah puts in person’s time, wealth, health, efforts etc. whereby it increases, multiplies or a lot of good comes from something little] they will have in their life, and the vast provision (rizq i.e. wealth, knowledge, health etc. Allah gives them); and how much their hearts will be at rest; and the ease they will find in all their affairs [due to being dutiful to their parents].

The difficult question for every person is – what type of child are you?

Don’t think that by simply kissing the forehead or hands, or even the feet of your parents, that you have attained their ultimate pleasure..m Ask yourself – what is al-Birr (being dutiful and kind towards one’s parents)?

… Al-birr is to recognize what is in the heart of your parents and act upon it without waiting for an instruction.

Al-birr is knowing what makes them happy, then racing towards doing it; and understanding what hurts them, then striving that they don’t ever see it from you!

Al-birr could be in something that you feel your parents desire, and you bring it to them, even a cup of tea..

Al-birr is that you ensure the comfort of your parents, even at the cost of your own happiness; so if you staying out late will cause them worry and stress, then you sleeping early is part of your birr (kindness) towards them.

Al-birr is that you miss a party that you are invited to when you feel, even for a second, that your staying out late will cause then worry and stress.

Al-birr is to plan a surprise Umrah or Hajj trip for your parents and arranging for them a nice hotel which they deserve!

Al-birr is to cheer up your parents – at an age where (for them) there does not remain a lot which brings them joy and happiness…

Al-birr is to spend abundantly
on your parents from your wealth even if they posses millions, without thinking twice about how much they own or whether they need it; for everything you have is only because of their hard work, and sleepless nights which they spent looking after you..

Al-birr is to look for their comfort, and not let them exert effort to make you comfortable, for it is enough how much strived for your sake already…

There are many ways for al-birr which lead to al-Janah (Paradise), so don’t restrict it to a single kiss on the forehead which may be followed up by many shortcomings…

و قَضَى رَبُّكَ أَلاَّ تَعْبُدُواْ إِلاَّ إِيَّاهُ وَبِالْوَالِدَيْنِ إِحْسَانًا

{And your Lord has decreed that you not worship except Him, and to parents, good treatment.} (Quran 17:23)